Man's Spiritual Way
Tonight the theme is the path of spirituality for those who are in a man’s body. The same topic was talked about yesterday to those who are in a woman’s body. What is the path to self-realization and what is its relationship to a man’s body? As I said earlier, the physical body affects only the three outer cosmosthat is, to the level of the mind. Its effect does not extend to the causal, superconscious mind. That is, the fact that a person is born into a man’s body or a woman’s body has only a small effect on mental development.
At the deeper levels there is no difference between a man and a woman, all these differences become insignificant. For the Self is one and indistinguishable. But the difference is relevant to the physical body and to the mind, which is related to the physical body and its evolution. The physical body thus affects to some extent the conscious mind and the subconscious mind, psyche, and physical form. Therefore, there are some differences between those with male and female bodies in terms of mental strengths and efforts.
Those who are in a man’s body, those who have come to this life during this time wearing the man’s body, have some very great strengths, but also certain obstacles. There is great strength in men’s comprehension and discernment in terms of mental awakening. Those who are in a man’s body tend to think broadly in a global way. Unlike women, they are not attracted but they feel attracted. Intelligence is often very sophisticated and advanced and abstract concepts effortless.
And with this, they have less tendency than women to fall completely into the power of attachment. Thus, this ability to think objectively without sentimentality and excessive attachment is a strength for those who are in a man’s body and is very conducive to spiritual life, as this clear thinking and discernment is an essential element for spiritual development. There is another aspect for men. Their willpower can be very great. And if it is properly aimed and hits the finish line, that strength of mind, strength of character can go a long way. These are very significant advantages on the spiritual path and makes it possible to direct the mental power effectively with courage, determination and clarity of mind, which is excessive sentimentality and affection do not blur.
But every trait or characteristic that has a potential advantage can also have a potential disadvantage. These same qualities can bring with them a kind of emotional coolness, a difficulty in catching emotions and the heart. Those who are in a man’s body tend to be indifferent. More specifically, abstract thinking has evolved, but social interaction is often less developed. In teaching, working with others, in certain types of work-related matters, communication and interaction may be okay, but when it comes to very personal matters, many men are reluctant to talk to other men. In fact, they prefer to talk to a woman.This is because they feel that women have a gentler heart and women would not immediately spot them as weak. The woman is caring, “Yes I understand…” But the man feels that if he talks to another man, he criticizes him, “Come on, he’s not as masculine as I…”
This is the weakness of men: pride. This is a real problem. Arrogance and pride.
To protect the image of masculinity, there is a reluctance to reveal one’s own vulnerability, a reluctance to let others see that there is a little boy behind who needs care - with the possible exception of a couple of women. It is ok that women see, but not men. The wife is allowed to see this, but not the men. Pokka should be kept with men. One must always try to be bigger than the other, more masculine, stronger.
Thus, this ability to strength is a great advantage on the spiritual path, but also a disadvantage. Because there is a need to give an idea of power in social circles, the result is an inability to experience one’s own vulnerability. This is partly due to the influence of culture and partly to the man’s body itself. Culture dictates to a man that this must be a breadwinner, strong. When a wife feels weak and children have needs, it is part of men to take care of them.
But this is not just a product of culture. It occurs in different societies. It is the duty of a man to go hunting, to defend family and children. Men are warriors, hunters,
those who protect from enemies, those who protect from all adversity that brings prey home. These are the duties of a man. And that’s why they need to be strong. They need to be strong enough to withstand.
Many tribes have rites of marriage that are sometimes very painful. If a boy cannot stand the pain, he is not considered worthy of a man. He is tested as a man as he grows up. Is he brave? Is he strong? Does he last? This is how a man is assumed to be strong. And if there are such requirements in terms of strength, it will be much more difficult to show all the signs of vulnerability and weakness.
If you cried, what it would look like in an environment where there are such extreme expectations. And for thousands of years, in many cultures, this has been expected of men. For those who are in the form of a man, lands,ownership and control are important. They are the affairs of men: their own land, sphere of influence, position in the hierarchy. Therefore, it is difficult for a man to show his weakness to another man. Because there is always a competition for who is the dominant man. You can’t show weakness because then you can’t be the dominant man.
And even if you’re a civilized man and you feel like you don’t think that way, it’s still there beneath the surface. These animal instincts still exist in the body, in the animal body. These are impulses sent by the body. There is a need to control, and control means continuing your genetic lineage through a woman who will give birth to you children. Management, land, property, these are strong instincts.
They are below the surface. A civilized man can regulate them, but that doesn’t mean they wouldn’t come to mind from the body. So if you want to talk about your feelings of vulnerability, if you want to get in touch with your feelings, if you want to feel the sensitivity of your heart, if you want to be a friend - a true friend - with other men, share not only your victory but your worries and pain and needs , a kind of trust that does not easily arise between men.
It is also difficult for men to express their feelings. Even if there are emotions, they cannot be properly perceived in the mind. It is not always easy for men to express their feelings verbally, to define them, to experience them sensitively, to know what they are. I speak, of course, on a general level. There are men who are very sensitive on an emotional level, the most sensitive, even more sensitive than many women.
I speak on a general level with reference to the vast majority, but not, of course, every individual. But all of you have been with many different men and you know that for many men this is true. In spiritual life, strength, intensity, the ability to move forward, clarity of mind, abstinence from excessive emotionality,sentimentality and too much attachment to others and the world are all great strengths through which it is easier for men to achieve a clarity of mind that leads to the disappearance of the ego and the heights and comprehension of intuitive sensitivity. The male body is conducive to the development of these great benefits.
The disadvantages of being a man lie in the lack of ability to activate, put into words, experience and open the heart, and the ability to be vulnerable. These are significant challenges on the spiritual path.
For in and out of love one can experience and feel devotion or divine compassion or grace. When the soldiers stand at the gate of the heart, no one can get inside. Nor can the stream of Supreme Grace, unconditional love, and compassion enter through the locked door.
To remove these bars, and to allow soldiers to relax and become little boys, is sometimes difficult. It requires a great deal of trust. It takes great courage in a different way than is normally expected of men. A woman is not required to have the courage to do so, it is natural for her. But for men, it requires great courage due to social norms, tradition. And those norms come from the genes, the body, the position of man in the struggle for power and territory that comes from the animal inheritance of the body. And in today’s even the most sophisticated environments, business, etc., we still see this power struggle.
This masculine power psychology has been dominant in the world for thousands of years and has unfortunately taken on the most blatant proportions. With Hitler in power, such a patriarchal archetype got its extreme expression. Anything can become a demon if it goes to extremes. The matriarchal era also reached such an extreme and then collapsed.
Capitalism and its manifestations in commercialized societies have gone to such extremes that it has become a burden on society, a disease. This goes for anyone going to extremes. And so it has been with the patriarchate. It reached such an extreme that it produced Hitler’s psychology, focusing solely on power and victory, belief in the ideology of the upper race, higher beings, and lower beings, and commitment to these ideologies. But where is the heart? There is no heart here. This was an extreme, exaggeration. The gentleness of love does not balance it.
Now the world is changing and the feminine phase is on the rise, but that does not mean that the matriarchate is returning, but rather that a balance is being created between the masculine and the feminine. And when they come into balance in society, it allows individuals, men and women, to balance those two aspects in their own psyche, and gradually that balanced personality becomes the norm. A man’s psyche and manifestation become more feminine and a woman becomes more masculine because those two parts of the psyche come together. In this way, the man is able to get more contact with the heart, reveal his vulnerability, communicate, define his feelings and make the commitments of the heart. And a woman is better able to strengthen her mind and achieve clarity of mind. As society begins to encourage this balance, it will also come into the lives of individuals. In spiritual life all these different qualities are needed.
Certain qualities strengthen the human body. Perhaps man has come in such a character to develop those qualities that were not so advanced in the previous life. But man cannot allow the mere mind to guide nor the mere heart. Both the heart and the mind are needed to realize the Supreme.
At the deeper levels there is no difference between a man and a woman, all these differences become insignificant. For the Self is one and indistinguishable. But the difference is relevant to the physical body and to the mind, which is related to the physical body and its evolution. The physical body thus affects to some extent the conscious mind and the subconscious mind, psyche, and physical form. Therefore, there are some differences between those with male and female bodies in terms of mental strengths and efforts.
Those who are in a man’s body, those who have come to this life during this time wearing the man’s body, have some very great strengths, but also certain obstacles. There is great strength in men’s comprehension and discernment in terms of mental awakening. Those who are in a man’s body tend to think broadly in a global way. Unlike women, they are not attracted but they feel attracted. Intelligence is often very sophisticated and advanced and abstract concepts effortless.
And with this, they have less tendency than women to fall completely into the power of attachment. Thus, this ability to think objectively without sentimentality and excessive attachment is a strength for those who are in a man’s body and is very conducive to spiritual life, as this clear thinking and discernment is an essential element for spiritual development. There is another aspect for men. Their willpower can be very great. And if it is properly aimed and hits the finish line, that strength of mind, strength of character can go a long way. These are very significant advantages on the spiritual path and makes it possible to direct the mental power effectively with courage, determination and clarity of mind, which is excessive sentimentality and affection do not blur.
But every trait or characteristic that has a potential advantage can also have a potential disadvantage. These same qualities can bring with them a kind of emotional coolness, a difficulty in catching emotions and the heart. Those who are in a man’s body tend to be indifferent. More specifically, abstract thinking has evolved, but social interaction is often less developed. In teaching, working with others, in certain types of work-related matters, communication and interaction may be okay, but when it comes to very personal matters, many men are reluctant to talk to other men. In fact, they prefer to talk to a woman.This is because they feel that women have a gentler heart and women would not immediately spot them as weak. The woman is caring, “Yes I understand…” But the man feels that if he talks to another man, he criticizes him, “Come on, he’s not as masculine as I…”
This is the weakness of men: pride. This is a real problem. Arrogance and pride.
To protect the image of masculinity, there is a reluctance to reveal one’s own vulnerability, a reluctance to let others see that there is a little boy behind who needs care - with the possible exception of a couple of women. It is ok that women see, but not men. The wife is allowed to see this, but not the men. Pokka should be kept with men. One must always try to be bigger than the other, more masculine, stronger.
Thus, this ability to strength is a great advantage on the spiritual path, but also a disadvantage. Because there is a need to give an idea of power in social circles, the result is an inability to experience one’s own vulnerability. This is partly due to the influence of culture and partly to the man’s body itself. Culture dictates to a man that this must be a breadwinner, strong. When a wife feels weak and children have needs, it is part of men to take care of them.
But this is not just a product of culture. It occurs in different societies. It is the duty of a man to go hunting, to defend family and children. Men are warriors, hunters,
those who protect from enemies, those who protect from all adversity that brings prey home. These are the duties of a man. And that’s why they need to be strong. They need to be strong enough to withstand.
Many tribes have rites of marriage that are sometimes very painful. If a boy cannot stand the pain, he is not considered worthy of a man. He is tested as a man as he grows up. Is he brave? Is he strong? Does he last? This is how a man is assumed to be strong. And if there are such requirements in terms of strength, it will be much more difficult to show all the signs of vulnerability and weakness.
If you cried, what it would look like in an environment where there are such extreme expectations. And for thousands of years, in many cultures, this has been expected of men. For those who are in the form of a man, lands,ownership and control are important. They are the affairs of men: their own land, sphere of influence, position in the hierarchy. Therefore, it is difficult for a man to show his weakness to another man. Because there is always a competition for who is the dominant man. You can’t show weakness because then you can’t be the dominant man.
And even if you’re a civilized man and you feel like you don’t think that way, it’s still there beneath the surface. These animal instincts still exist in the body, in the animal body. These are impulses sent by the body. There is a need to control, and control means continuing your genetic lineage through a woman who will give birth to you children. Management, land, property, these are strong instincts.
They are below the surface. A civilized man can regulate them, but that doesn’t mean they wouldn’t come to mind from the body. So if you want to talk about your feelings of vulnerability, if you want to get in touch with your feelings, if you want to feel the sensitivity of your heart, if you want to be a friend - a true friend - with other men, share not only your victory but your worries and pain and needs , a kind of trust that does not easily arise between men.
It is also difficult for men to express their feelings. Even if there are emotions, they cannot be properly perceived in the mind. It is not always easy for men to express their feelings verbally, to define them, to experience them sensitively, to know what they are. I speak, of course, on a general level. There are men who are very sensitive on an emotional level, the most sensitive, even more sensitive than many women.
I speak on a general level with reference to the vast majority, but not, of course, every individual. But all of you have been with many different men and you know that for many men this is true. In spiritual life, strength, intensity, the ability to move forward, clarity of mind, abstinence from excessive emotionality,sentimentality and too much attachment to others and the world are all great strengths through which it is easier for men to achieve a clarity of mind that leads to the disappearance of the ego and the heights and comprehension of intuitive sensitivity. The male body is conducive to the development of these great benefits.
The disadvantages of being a man lie in the lack of ability to activate, put into words, experience and open the heart, and the ability to be vulnerable. These are significant challenges on the spiritual path.
For in and out of love one can experience and feel devotion or divine compassion or grace. When the soldiers stand at the gate of the heart, no one can get inside. Nor can the stream of Supreme Grace, unconditional love, and compassion enter through the locked door.
To remove these bars, and to allow soldiers to relax and become little boys, is sometimes difficult. It requires a great deal of trust. It takes great courage in a different way than is normally expected of men. A woman is not required to have the courage to do so, it is natural for her. But for men, it requires great courage due to social norms, tradition. And those norms come from the genes, the body, the position of man in the struggle for power and territory that comes from the animal inheritance of the body. And in today’s even the most sophisticated environments, business, etc., we still see this power struggle.
This masculine power psychology has been dominant in the world for thousands of years and has unfortunately taken on the most blatant proportions. With Hitler in power, such a patriarchal archetype got its extreme expression. Anything can become a demon if it goes to extremes. The matriarchal era also reached such an extreme and then collapsed.
Capitalism and its manifestations in commercialized societies have gone to such extremes that it has become a burden on society, a disease. This goes for anyone going to extremes. And so it has been with the patriarchate. It reached such an extreme that it produced Hitler’s psychology, focusing solely on power and victory, belief in the ideology of the upper race, higher beings, and lower beings, and commitment to these ideologies. But where is the heart? There is no heart here. This was an extreme, exaggeration. The gentleness of love does not balance it.
Now the world is changing and the feminine phase is on the rise, but that does not mean that the matriarchate is returning, but rather that a balance is being created between the masculine and the feminine. And when they come into balance in society, it allows individuals, men and women, to balance those two aspects in their own psyche, and gradually that balanced personality becomes the norm. A man’s psyche and manifestation become more feminine and a woman becomes more masculine because those two parts of the psyche come together. In this way, the man is able to get more contact with the heart, reveal his vulnerability, communicate, define his feelings and make the commitments of the heart. And a woman is better able to strengthen her mind and achieve clarity of mind. As society begins to encourage this balance, it will also come into the lives of individuals. In spiritual life all these different qualities are needed.
Certain qualities strengthen the human body. Perhaps man has come in such a character to develop those qualities that were not so advanced in the previous life. But man cannot allow the mere mind to guide nor the mere heart. Both the heart and the mind are needed to realize the Supreme.
For thousands of years, men have ruled religious and spiritual institutes around the world.
And most spiritual traditions, especially Eastern traditions - yoga, Buddhism, but also Western Christianity - have been adapted to masculine psychology. And many spiritual exercises and approaches and teachings are aimed specifically at men. Although they can also be practiced by women, they were developed for men by men. And so many exercises are great for men.
It is only in today’s society, as the forces on our planet are changing, that men also begin to question this emphasis on the masculine perspective and they ask,
“What about me then? I want to feel my heart. I want to share things with my brothers. ”
These feelings are surfacing now in men, something they didn’t do 20-30 years ago. They come now as the forces on our planet change and as the male and female energies become more balanced. The feminine side rises more to the surface in men, while the feminine side rises more to the surface in women. A balance is created. The time of equilibrium is approaching.
Unfortunately, many women have tried to live like men in working life with the intention of freeing women from discrimination, and this does not help them at all. And it doesn’t help the family or the strength of the family.
For it is women who unite people. And men trust women in creating social networks. Perhaps many of you in your own life will notice how dependent you are on women to balance you and create social and emotional ties. But when you’re in a group of men, you think,
“Where are my social and emotional ties? Who would make them smooth and comfortable? ”
You will begin to notice this addiction.
But in today’s world, women have gone to work on men’s terms. And they have become essentially masculine. They have the form of a woman, but they work 40 hours a week, they have a hard work pace, they become leaders and are basically men. They rush forward and fight to be in power. And what happens? The children are in kindergarten. Grandmother is in a nursing home. The family breaks up and after five years the spouses live apart because there is no gentle woman who should keep them together. He does not enter into or maintain relationships, but rushes forward in his career to reach the top. And because of this, the structure of society is totally broken, the family structure, social networks and all the structures of society. Meanwhile, the men are confused, "What is my role?"
People need interaction. Men as much as women. While for most men, the ability to form social relationships is no strength. Some are really good, but for the most part it’s harder. For women, it falls naturally because women have a close relationship with children. These abilities come from biological structure. While men and women have similar skills, women tend to be more attached to home, family, and children. They bring men home, creating a warm home and a safe harbor. And they are dependent on the strength of their husbands.
But men, too, are dependent on the emotional security and care they receive from their wives, girlfriends, or female friends. And often they feel like they can tell women what they can’t tell another man because of a fundamental competitive spirit. It takes a man great courage to dig into his heart, to be open, to show his affectionate side, his vulnerable side especially to another man. How can you be vulnerable and open with the one you are competing with? These things are instinctive, they come from the body. Distinctiveness and an understanding of the biological basis are needed to overcome this point. In some men, these instincts are stronger than in others.
Spirituality requires both heart and mind. Only by facing all these weaknesses, tears, pains and sorrows of the heart can true courage be achieved. Men who want to win the inner lion rather than the outer must arm themselves not only with the sword of discernment and the shield of truth, but with the heart of the lion. And in order to have the heart of a lion, one should be willing to face the inner lions, ready to eat, to bring strength and love together. For those with a male character, it is essential to foster spiritual development to develop a heart and a sense of devotion - not of duty or loyalty, which are admittedly fine, but it is important to develop a deep devotional love for Parama Purusha.,
To the Supreme - not just a cool love for a distant thought of the Self, but a desire to feel all pain and vulnerability, a desire to identify and define one’s feelings, to be sensitive to one’s own and others ’feelings. You will learn to be gentle and caring, to feel deep compassion, not only for women, but also for men. As compassion develops, the mind grows and expands and, beyond the limitations of the physical body, it encounters the transcendent. There are no females or males. There are no differences based on form.There everything is equal.
And most spiritual traditions, especially Eastern traditions - yoga, Buddhism, but also Western Christianity - have been adapted to masculine psychology. And many spiritual exercises and approaches and teachings are aimed specifically at men. Although they can also be practiced by women, they were developed for men by men. And so many exercises are great for men.
It is only in today’s society, as the forces on our planet are changing, that men also begin to question this emphasis on the masculine perspective and they ask,
“What about me then? I want to feel my heart. I want to share things with my brothers. ”
These feelings are surfacing now in men, something they didn’t do 20-30 years ago. They come now as the forces on our planet change and as the male and female energies become more balanced. The feminine side rises more to the surface in men, while the feminine side rises more to the surface in women. A balance is created. The time of equilibrium is approaching.
Unfortunately, many women have tried to live like men in working life with the intention of freeing women from discrimination, and this does not help them at all. And it doesn’t help the family or the strength of the family.
For it is women who unite people. And men trust women in creating social networks. Perhaps many of you in your own life will notice how dependent you are on women to balance you and create social and emotional ties. But when you’re in a group of men, you think,
“Where are my social and emotional ties? Who would make them smooth and comfortable? ”
You will begin to notice this addiction.
But in today’s world, women have gone to work on men’s terms. And they have become essentially masculine. They have the form of a woman, but they work 40 hours a week, they have a hard work pace, they become leaders and are basically men. They rush forward and fight to be in power. And what happens? The children are in kindergarten. Grandmother is in a nursing home. The family breaks up and after five years the spouses live apart because there is no gentle woman who should keep them together. He does not enter into or maintain relationships, but rushes forward in his career to reach the top. And because of this, the structure of society is totally broken, the family structure, social networks and all the structures of society. Meanwhile, the men are confused, "What is my role?"
People need interaction. Men as much as women. While for most men, the ability to form social relationships is no strength. Some are really good, but for the most part it’s harder. For women, it falls naturally because women have a close relationship with children. These abilities come from biological structure. While men and women have similar skills, women tend to be more attached to home, family, and children. They bring men home, creating a warm home and a safe harbor. And they are dependent on the strength of their husbands.
But men, too, are dependent on the emotional security and care they receive from their wives, girlfriends, or female friends. And often they feel like they can tell women what they can’t tell another man because of a fundamental competitive spirit. It takes a man great courage to dig into his heart, to be open, to show his affectionate side, his vulnerable side especially to another man. How can you be vulnerable and open with the one you are competing with? These things are instinctive, they come from the body. Distinctiveness and an understanding of the biological basis are needed to overcome this point. In some men, these instincts are stronger than in others.
Spirituality requires both heart and mind. Only by facing all these weaknesses, tears, pains and sorrows of the heart can true courage be achieved. Men who want to win the inner lion rather than the outer must arm themselves not only with the sword of discernment and the shield of truth, but with the heart of the lion. And in order to have the heart of a lion, one should be willing to face the inner lions, ready to eat, to bring strength and love together. For those with a male character, it is essential to foster spiritual development to develop a heart and a sense of devotion - not of duty or loyalty, which are admittedly fine, but it is important to develop a deep devotional love for Parama Purusha.,
To the Supreme - not just a cool love for a distant thought of the Self, but a desire to feel all pain and vulnerability, a desire to identify and define one’s feelings, to be sensitive to one’s own and others ’feelings. You will learn to be gentle and caring, to feel deep compassion, not only for women, but also for men. As compassion develops, the mind grows and expands and, beyond the limitations of the physical body, it encounters the transcendent. There are no females or males. There are no differences based on form.There everything is equal.
