Sexuality and Society
During a meditation teacher training in California, Baba was asked for guidance regarding sexuality in both personal life and sexuality in general in today’s society.
In today’s society, many have extramarital affairs. And unmarried people have several relationships at the same time: today they are with one and tomorrow with another. This is a common practice in American and European culture, and it is spreading to other cultures as well.
All the norms of the past have been broken, all the roots of Puritanism, the standards of the Catholic and various Christian churches have been broken. They no longer regulate society. There is no puritanical ethics or moral standards. People are not afraid of being separated from the church or stigmatized. Such external pressure has diminished: people have revolted widely against the control exercised by shattering religious institutions in the West, which, with the rise of science, has lost its grip on man.
Those institutions no longer seem to be able to meet people’s spiritual needs.
Thus, Western society in general is breaking down, which has its pros and cons. On the one hand, many dogmas imposed by religions have been liberated, on the other hand, people’s spiritual longing is lost. Likewise, the notion of ethics and morality is also lost by many. After separating from the realm of organized religion, many people have an empty place in terms of personal moral values and personal relationship to something greater than themselves.
Thus, in the Western world, there has been widespread recourse to the esoteric traditions of the East, which have largely survived. Some have turned to the esoteric traditions that have survived within Christianity and have also partially survived. But in general, the younger generation in the West has lost moral values, and this has also affected relationships within the family. The extended family and even the nuclear family have broken down. The number of divorces in this country (USA) is higher than the number of marriages.
The family structure has crumbled and it has caused great suffering and pain in people because they do not know their place. They don't know who to trust. Whether they are young or old or sick, who cares for them? Everything is uncertain. And even within a family, if there are only one or two people, what happens if the other gets sick? It’s an accident for everyone, or else that person will be dumped. There is no extended family that cares for the sick and the weak or the disabled. There is no one to take care of them and that is why they end up in institutions.
It is a disease, just like a computer virus, a disease, a disease of society, and it is spreading to the east, where the structures of society have become very rigid. The family system is very rigid. The system has become very rigid and people feel a lack of vitality. They see the vitality and energy of the West and it fascinates them. They like it. So they embrace it. But its downside is that it also comes with a virus hidden in it. And it's spreading. And family structures are shaken.
It is good to break dogmas. It is good to break the shackles and stiffness. The family structure in the East is very tight. Only the older brother, the older sister, has control. The youngest has no power. This is a very rigid system, it is a submissive system. The youngest may be the smartest of the siblings. But if he has no say, he is at the bottom of his whole life, then it is a matter of repression of abilities and resources. This is unfortunate. But even worse is a situation where no one has a family. No one has anyone to turn to, and they fear for the rest of their lives that they will grow old, or that they will cut off their feet from what will happen then. They are put in the facility. It creates a kind of fear complex in people.
They have to work particularly hard to stay afloat. And if they have to step on some to get there, isn’t it about survival. Because if you don’t have security, what happens to you if you get sick? What happens if something goes wrong? So you need to get a good job, get good health benefits, get a lot of other benefits because you don’t have a family. You do not have a large family. There is no one to be with you. For this reason, many people are also lonely. And they don’t have a decent place in society.
What to do when society has lost its balance, prama? The problem is global.
It is not due to the individual. The individual is in a problematic position because of society. A global solution is needed for society to achieve balance and for people to achieve a sense of dharma , morality in their lives, and balance and wisdom in their relationships so that families and extended families can be reunited. Prout theory and neo-humanism have been given for this purpose, because society is in such a difficult situation right now. And this problem affects everyone.
It’s not impersonal, it’s very personal.
The child grows up in a family with only a mother and a father, maybe a couple of siblings, maybe no family at all,
maybe mom and dad have moved apart. Half the time he lives in one place, the other side 500 km away, half the clothes in another place. But if there is no better information, the child will not notice anything special in it. But the situation is very unfavorable. Lack of a solid foundation. There is no fixed point in society and human relations. And if a person tries to change a situation alone, he finds that it is the mighty forces that are in control of the situation.
So the young person grows up without even knowing that there could be some wider community, a family, a large family. He doesn't know what's bothering him. She feels lonely, marginalized, insecure, and she doesn’t know why. What does she want? He is 17, 18, maybe 15 years old, maybe 14 or 13 years old. She finds her sexuality. She’s very alone, her parents are in a constant hurry with work and she has no uncles and aunts or other close people in her immediate circle, and she doesn’t have any kind of spiritual vision in her life - and she finds her own body. And he finds that others like his body. And that he can be appreciated and loved.
There is someone for him, someone who notices him, who cares about him. In this way, he may wake up sexually at a very young age. Because there are no standards, and because the young person’s relationship at home is not very strong, today’s young people in the West are weak. Many have difficulties. They take up arms. They have sex. And they get AIDS.
They suffer because their fundamental human needs are unmet, their need to be valued, the need for love, the need for home, family, the values they live by, and the need for the deeper content of life, spirituality. In their lives, these factors are out of place. They feel on their own at a very young age - 12, 13, 14, 15 years old. They want to find love in their lives. And they have no principles to follow, so they do what they want. And don’t they respect their parents, for what has society given them that they should respect? They have each other and they decide together, “We don’t care about parents. We have each other. We are following our own path. ” They have no respect because they have not received any life instructions.
Those who are parents and who recognize something here about their own children should not feel guilty. It is not a personal matter, but a social one. I am sure that each of you has made taking into account the best conditions. But there are those whose situation is extremely awkward and it is not possible for them to give their children just anything. Work takes up much of the time a wife or husband has left, they have children. They have to work 60 hours a week at their computer company. There is no spouse, no extended family and no other relatives in the immediate circle.
What to do? They love their children, but what can they do? And what if their parents need help? And what if they get sick themselves?
This society is in a bad mood. Thus, one cannot speak of sexuality without understanding its dependence on the state of society.
The young man grows up and catches his partner: he has found someone. She marries, has a child. He resigns five years later. Then he tries to get someone else. She is trying
to work and take care of the child. It is heavy. He finds someone else, but resigns again after a while. Life is one mess.
What can this loner do? And this does not only apply to young people, but to people of all ages. Divorces leave so many people alone. The numbers of men and women do not match,
so there are many more single women in our society. They feel lonely and getting old.
Naturally, people become wiser with age and don’t just start having sex, but think first. But there is no moral behavior in society. Do what you want, take what you get, as long as you don’t get sick. As a young person grows up, he realizes that he can get AIDS, he can get very sick, he is best to be careful. So people think first. But sex is still a way to get intimate touch and love in a lonely world where you don’t have people around you who love you, people who are your family, people who really care about you. Who really cares about you? So many are lonely, none of them care. If they find even a little bit of love, why not? This is the state of society. It is impossible to blame anyone.
So no one can be blamed. But I think you realize that the situation is not the best. Society is sick. It has a virus, a social virus. Do you think AIDS was born for no reason? It is a social virus. It is an epidemic. This is a tragedy.
And Western societies alone do not have a problem. Eastern societies also have serious problems, they only differ slightly from their Western hue and character. But these problems in society create the background to the problems.
It is necessary to look at societal practices in order to look at sexuality
and interpersonal relationships. Relationships cannot be viewed without regard to social samskaras. The society in which Marriages are the norm is the injustices, difficulties, and obstacles it brings with it within the internal samskaras (samskara: a reaction to an act that leaves a mark on the mind).
And in a matriarchal society where children were the mother’s exclusivity and marriage was not an institution, and the patriarchate was not seen as a functioning system, the samskars of that society affected people. Thus, the samskars within culture and society affect people’s minds and lives, and how people behave in close relationships, sexuality,
and relationships with others.
In this society, a monogamous relationship has been the norm. But nowadays, relationships come and go, even though the ideal of a lifelong partnership remains, and people are a little confused. They have in mind the idea that when they get married, it is a lifelong relationship because it is a social ideal. But the fact is that it rarely materializes in modern times. So people get married and divorce more than once, and in addition to that, they have other relationships, and multiple sex partners. But the bad side effects and serious dangers of this lifestyle are obvious.
Emotional attachment
But not all effects are visible on the surface. Such as when a person has multiple sexual partners and sex is practiced without commitment, what happens? There is an emotional attachment, an emotional attachment. And if there is no commitment, it causes great pain and suffering when one party leaves the relationship and the other is emotionally wounded.
Because a person is sexually opened, it has provoked a certain emotional attachment and an instinctive emotional reaction. The situation can rationalize and say: "I have my responsibilities knowledgeable adult and I am responsible for my own feelings, etc." But the fact is that you are all children emotionally. And those who think very rationally that they are in control of everything are emotional preschoolers.
So people are not able to cope properly with the situation. The mind cannot always understand emotions. It always wants to analyze and manage. But emotions are not easy to control. This mind and body are connected to each other and part of the human mind is very closely connected with the body - survival, reproduction - there are many so-called instinctive reactions: dictated by maternal instinct, paternal instinct. These are therefore instinctive reactions. Instinctive factors related to sexuality and emotional attachment: the natural survival drive associated with the survival of the species. It is very powerful, much more powerful than you will notice. And your whole sharp intellect is a mere bunny, utterly irrelevant as these survivors and the offspring of descendants burst forth to conquer your mind. They will rise to control your mind. They are celebrations. Their job is to preserve the species and they control the mind after getting the initial impetus for it.
And for a woman, sex and trust in a partner are very important in an intimate relationship.
Because it is a potential opportunity to become pregnant, a woman has an instinctive tendency to become emotionally attached and dependent on a partner. Because it is a survival drive for the species. Because offspring need to be protected, and because a woman needs to be able to turn to other people, a man, to help them in childbirth and raising children. Thus, women tend to place more emphasis on interpersonal relationships and social development. It’s an instinctive quest for survival, but it makes a woman emotionally vulnerable in an intimate relationship.
And the need to protect and hold on to a partner develops from an instinctive desire to build a nest, a safe place for children.
Before the institution of marriage there were tribes. The tribe grouped around the tribal mothers. The tribal mothers had children. The children knew nothing about fatherhood. They belonged to the mother, they were the property of her mother. The women with the most healthy children became very strong within the tribe.
The men and boys were inside the district. The whole tribe remained together as one entity, a kind of extended family. In this way, a well-functioning family system developed without a marriage institution. But it was a relatively small group of people. The position in the group was obtained according to the number of children, and the position of the men depended on how respected a woman she joined. If a man was the son of the strongest woman, he attained a high position among men.
In this way the social structure of the tribes developed in those days,and it worked well without a marriage system. As small communities, hunting-gathering communities, they maintained themselves as a group: it was a kind of group marriage. All human needs were met within that group because it was a fixed group. And people had their place in the group. There was no monogamous marriage, but still society was stable.
Then, with the marriage system and the concept of paternity, patriarchy developed. And this also played a solid foundation for human relationships, because the monogamous marriage and the extended family the couple joined had aunts, uncles, mothers, fathers, children, grandchildren — all living in the same city, in the same community. There was a certain social structure in which the young people met.
Often the parents arranged the marriage. If this was not the case, there may have been love relationships, but there were usually traditions and ways in which others were met. And when the couple were together, they had their own place in relation to family and system. And they were supposed to stay in it. Some side jumps were tolerated, especially for men in most societies, but the duty was to maintain family, family structure, and family stability.
But in the West, there is very little stability in today’s family. Nowadays, it is common to go out, meet someone and start a relationship without any commitment. This situation leads to emotional hardship because all the instinctive you spent on stability and security, the knowledge of who you are and what your position is, all these basic people spent, need to be suppressed. When people have to be repressed in order to meet the demands of society, it leads to neurosis.
It leads to mental imbalance, mental suffering.
People want to feel free, they want to feel that they are making their own decisions. They want to be creative, individual. Individuality is a hard word in the West, isn’t it? Individuality
is very popular. But when individuality goes to extremes so that there is no sense of togetherness and the individual realizes their individual creativity - not everyone is smart enough, not everyone has enough emotional intelligence to realize the destruction they are doing to others and themselves. And so there are a lot of broken hearts and a lot of wounded emotions, a lot of emotionally unhappy people having a relationship after a relationship. And people are starting to think, “Life is just like that now”. But life just isn’t like that; this is a miserable situation. And those who find themselves in such situations know how miserable it is.
But man must emphasize material achievements, for what does he have? She has no family to take care of her. Mom, dad, aunt and uncle can’t take care of him. It’s best for him to learn to take care of himself, right? You need to know how to take care of yourself or else you are a loser. Homeless bum. Who wants to be homeless?
So you have to work hard, throw hard work, do long days. You don't have time for kids. And so people sit for long days at computers and learn to live in their workplace. They learn to live in the workplace, it’s their home. And the family learns to live without them. But in these circumstances, the relationship with the family is very tight.
In relationships, in a relationship, it is best before embarking on an intimate relationship
that there is a firm intention to commit. In this case, both parties find the intimate relationship rewarding and safe. It will be safe. Have you noticed this in your own life? And how insecure it is when a jointly agreed commitment is lacking. It can be a very uncertain base.
Major tragedies can arise, especially for women who become pregnant. There’s a really big dilemma ahead when a child is coming into the world.
In today’s society, many have extramarital affairs. And unmarried people have several relationships at the same time: today they are with one and tomorrow with another. This is a common practice in American and European culture, and it is spreading to other cultures as well.
All the norms of the past have been broken, all the roots of Puritanism, the standards of the Catholic and various Christian churches have been broken. They no longer regulate society. There is no puritanical ethics or moral standards. People are not afraid of being separated from the church or stigmatized. Such external pressure has diminished: people have revolted widely against the control exercised by shattering religious institutions in the West, which, with the rise of science, has lost its grip on man.
Those institutions no longer seem to be able to meet people’s spiritual needs.
Thus, Western society in general is breaking down, which has its pros and cons. On the one hand, many dogmas imposed by religions have been liberated, on the other hand, people’s spiritual longing is lost. Likewise, the notion of ethics and morality is also lost by many. After separating from the realm of organized religion, many people have an empty place in terms of personal moral values and personal relationship to something greater than themselves.
Thus, in the Western world, there has been widespread recourse to the esoteric traditions of the East, which have largely survived. Some have turned to the esoteric traditions that have survived within Christianity and have also partially survived. But in general, the younger generation in the West has lost moral values, and this has also affected relationships within the family. The extended family and even the nuclear family have broken down. The number of divorces in this country (USA) is higher than the number of marriages.
The family structure has crumbled and it has caused great suffering and pain in people because they do not know their place. They don't know who to trust. Whether they are young or old or sick, who cares for them? Everything is uncertain. And even within a family, if there are only one or two people, what happens if the other gets sick? It’s an accident for everyone, or else that person will be dumped. There is no extended family that cares for the sick and the weak or the disabled. There is no one to take care of them and that is why they end up in institutions.
It is a disease, just like a computer virus, a disease, a disease of society, and it is spreading to the east, where the structures of society have become very rigid. The family system is very rigid. The system has become very rigid and people feel a lack of vitality. They see the vitality and energy of the West and it fascinates them. They like it. So they embrace it. But its downside is that it also comes with a virus hidden in it. And it's spreading. And family structures are shaken.
It is good to break dogmas. It is good to break the shackles and stiffness. The family structure in the East is very tight. Only the older brother, the older sister, has control. The youngest has no power. This is a very rigid system, it is a submissive system. The youngest may be the smartest of the siblings. But if he has no say, he is at the bottom of his whole life, then it is a matter of repression of abilities and resources. This is unfortunate. But even worse is a situation where no one has a family. No one has anyone to turn to, and they fear for the rest of their lives that they will grow old, or that they will cut off their feet from what will happen then. They are put in the facility. It creates a kind of fear complex in people.
They have to work particularly hard to stay afloat. And if they have to step on some to get there, isn’t it about survival. Because if you don’t have security, what happens to you if you get sick? What happens if something goes wrong? So you need to get a good job, get good health benefits, get a lot of other benefits because you don’t have a family. You do not have a large family. There is no one to be with you. For this reason, many people are also lonely. And they don’t have a decent place in society.
What to do when society has lost its balance, prama? The problem is global.
It is not due to the individual. The individual is in a problematic position because of society. A global solution is needed for society to achieve balance and for people to achieve a sense of dharma , morality in their lives, and balance and wisdom in their relationships so that families and extended families can be reunited. Prout theory and neo-humanism have been given for this purpose, because society is in such a difficult situation right now. And this problem affects everyone.
It’s not impersonal, it’s very personal.
The child grows up in a family with only a mother and a father, maybe a couple of siblings, maybe no family at all,
maybe mom and dad have moved apart. Half the time he lives in one place, the other side 500 km away, half the clothes in another place. But if there is no better information, the child will not notice anything special in it. But the situation is very unfavorable. Lack of a solid foundation. There is no fixed point in society and human relations. And if a person tries to change a situation alone, he finds that it is the mighty forces that are in control of the situation.
So the young person grows up without even knowing that there could be some wider community, a family, a large family. He doesn't know what's bothering him. She feels lonely, marginalized, insecure, and she doesn’t know why. What does she want? He is 17, 18, maybe 15 years old, maybe 14 or 13 years old. She finds her sexuality. She’s very alone, her parents are in a constant hurry with work and she has no uncles and aunts or other close people in her immediate circle, and she doesn’t have any kind of spiritual vision in her life - and she finds her own body. And he finds that others like his body. And that he can be appreciated and loved.
There is someone for him, someone who notices him, who cares about him. In this way, he may wake up sexually at a very young age. Because there are no standards, and because the young person’s relationship at home is not very strong, today’s young people in the West are weak. Many have difficulties. They take up arms. They have sex. And they get AIDS.
They suffer because their fundamental human needs are unmet, their need to be valued, the need for love, the need for home, family, the values they live by, and the need for the deeper content of life, spirituality. In their lives, these factors are out of place. They feel on their own at a very young age - 12, 13, 14, 15 years old. They want to find love in their lives. And they have no principles to follow, so they do what they want. And don’t they respect their parents, for what has society given them that they should respect? They have each other and they decide together, “We don’t care about parents. We have each other. We are following our own path. ” They have no respect because they have not received any life instructions.
Those who are parents and who recognize something here about their own children should not feel guilty. It is not a personal matter, but a social one. I am sure that each of you has made taking into account the best conditions. But there are those whose situation is extremely awkward and it is not possible for them to give their children just anything. Work takes up much of the time a wife or husband has left, they have children. They have to work 60 hours a week at their computer company. There is no spouse, no extended family and no other relatives in the immediate circle.
What to do? They love their children, but what can they do? And what if their parents need help? And what if they get sick themselves?
This society is in a bad mood. Thus, one cannot speak of sexuality without understanding its dependence on the state of society.
The young man grows up and catches his partner: he has found someone. She marries, has a child. He resigns five years later. Then he tries to get someone else. She is trying
to work and take care of the child. It is heavy. He finds someone else, but resigns again after a while. Life is one mess.
What can this loner do? And this does not only apply to young people, but to people of all ages. Divorces leave so many people alone. The numbers of men and women do not match,
so there are many more single women in our society. They feel lonely and getting old.
Naturally, people become wiser with age and don’t just start having sex, but think first. But there is no moral behavior in society. Do what you want, take what you get, as long as you don’t get sick. As a young person grows up, he realizes that he can get AIDS, he can get very sick, he is best to be careful. So people think first. But sex is still a way to get intimate touch and love in a lonely world where you don’t have people around you who love you, people who are your family, people who really care about you. Who really cares about you? So many are lonely, none of them care. If they find even a little bit of love, why not? This is the state of society. It is impossible to blame anyone.
So no one can be blamed. But I think you realize that the situation is not the best. Society is sick. It has a virus, a social virus. Do you think AIDS was born for no reason? It is a social virus. It is an epidemic. This is a tragedy.
And Western societies alone do not have a problem. Eastern societies also have serious problems, they only differ slightly from their Western hue and character. But these problems in society create the background to the problems.
It is necessary to look at societal practices in order to look at sexuality
and interpersonal relationships. Relationships cannot be viewed without regard to social samskaras. The society in which Marriages are the norm is the injustices, difficulties, and obstacles it brings with it within the internal samskaras (samskara: a reaction to an act that leaves a mark on the mind).
And in a matriarchal society where children were the mother’s exclusivity and marriage was not an institution, and the patriarchate was not seen as a functioning system, the samskars of that society affected people. Thus, the samskars within culture and society affect people’s minds and lives, and how people behave in close relationships, sexuality,
and relationships with others.
In this society, a monogamous relationship has been the norm. But nowadays, relationships come and go, even though the ideal of a lifelong partnership remains, and people are a little confused. They have in mind the idea that when they get married, it is a lifelong relationship because it is a social ideal. But the fact is that it rarely materializes in modern times. So people get married and divorce more than once, and in addition to that, they have other relationships, and multiple sex partners. But the bad side effects and serious dangers of this lifestyle are obvious.
Emotional attachment
But not all effects are visible on the surface. Such as when a person has multiple sexual partners and sex is practiced without commitment, what happens? There is an emotional attachment, an emotional attachment. And if there is no commitment, it causes great pain and suffering when one party leaves the relationship and the other is emotionally wounded.
Because a person is sexually opened, it has provoked a certain emotional attachment and an instinctive emotional reaction. The situation can rationalize and say: "I have my responsibilities knowledgeable adult and I am responsible for my own feelings, etc." But the fact is that you are all children emotionally. And those who think very rationally that they are in control of everything are emotional preschoolers.
So people are not able to cope properly with the situation. The mind cannot always understand emotions. It always wants to analyze and manage. But emotions are not easy to control. This mind and body are connected to each other and part of the human mind is very closely connected with the body - survival, reproduction - there are many so-called instinctive reactions: dictated by maternal instinct, paternal instinct. These are therefore instinctive reactions. Instinctive factors related to sexuality and emotional attachment: the natural survival drive associated with the survival of the species. It is very powerful, much more powerful than you will notice. And your whole sharp intellect is a mere bunny, utterly irrelevant as these survivors and the offspring of descendants burst forth to conquer your mind. They will rise to control your mind. They are celebrations. Their job is to preserve the species and they control the mind after getting the initial impetus for it.
And for a woman, sex and trust in a partner are very important in an intimate relationship.
Because it is a potential opportunity to become pregnant, a woman has an instinctive tendency to become emotionally attached and dependent on a partner. Because it is a survival drive for the species. Because offspring need to be protected, and because a woman needs to be able to turn to other people, a man, to help them in childbirth and raising children. Thus, women tend to place more emphasis on interpersonal relationships and social development. It’s an instinctive quest for survival, but it makes a woman emotionally vulnerable in an intimate relationship.
And the need to protect and hold on to a partner develops from an instinctive desire to build a nest, a safe place for children.
Before the institution of marriage there were tribes. The tribe grouped around the tribal mothers. The tribal mothers had children. The children knew nothing about fatherhood. They belonged to the mother, they were the property of her mother. The women with the most healthy children became very strong within the tribe.
The men and boys were inside the district. The whole tribe remained together as one entity, a kind of extended family. In this way, a well-functioning family system developed without a marriage institution. But it was a relatively small group of people. The position in the group was obtained according to the number of children, and the position of the men depended on how respected a woman she joined. If a man was the son of the strongest woman, he attained a high position among men.
In this way the social structure of the tribes developed in those days,and it worked well without a marriage system. As small communities, hunting-gathering communities, they maintained themselves as a group: it was a kind of group marriage. All human needs were met within that group because it was a fixed group. And people had their place in the group. There was no monogamous marriage, but still society was stable.
Then, with the marriage system and the concept of paternity, patriarchy developed. And this also played a solid foundation for human relationships, because the monogamous marriage and the extended family the couple joined had aunts, uncles, mothers, fathers, children, grandchildren — all living in the same city, in the same community. There was a certain social structure in which the young people met.
Often the parents arranged the marriage. If this was not the case, there may have been love relationships, but there were usually traditions and ways in which others were met. And when the couple were together, they had their own place in relation to family and system. And they were supposed to stay in it. Some side jumps were tolerated, especially for men in most societies, but the duty was to maintain family, family structure, and family stability.
But in the West, there is very little stability in today’s family. Nowadays, it is common to go out, meet someone and start a relationship without any commitment. This situation leads to emotional hardship because all the instinctive you spent on stability and security, the knowledge of who you are and what your position is, all these basic people spent, need to be suppressed. When people have to be repressed in order to meet the demands of society, it leads to neurosis.
It leads to mental imbalance, mental suffering.
People want to feel free, they want to feel that they are making their own decisions. They want to be creative, individual. Individuality is a hard word in the West, isn’t it? Individuality
is very popular. But when individuality goes to extremes so that there is no sense of togetherness and the individual realizes their individual creativity - not everyone is smart enough, not everyone has enough emotional intelligence to realize the destruction they are doing to others and themselves. And so there are a lot of broken hearts and a lot of wounded emotions, a lot of emotionally unhappy people having a relationship after a relationship. And people are starting to think, “Life is just like that now”. But life just isn’t like that; this is a miserable situation. And those who find themselves in such situations know how miserable it is.
But man must emphasize material achievements, for what does he have? She has no family to take care of her. Mom, dad, aunt and uncle can’t take care of him. It’s best for him to learn to take care of himself, right? You need to know how to take care of yourself or else you are a loser. Homeless bum. Who wants to be homeless?
So you have to work hard, throw hard work, do long days. You don't have time for kids. And so people sit for long days at computers and learn to live in their workplace. They learn to live in the workplace, it’s their home. And the family learns to live without them. But in these circumstances, the relationship with the family is very tight.
In relationships, in a relationship, it is best before embarking on an intimate relationship
that there is a firm intention to commit. In this case, both parties find the intimate relationship rewarding and safe. It will be safe. Have you noticed this in your own life? And how insecure it is when a jointly agreed commitment is lacking. It can be a very uncertain base.
Major tragedies can arise, especially for women who become pregnant. There’s a really big dilemma ahead when a child is coming into the world.